This week’s guest writer is Lydia Martin. As well as being my younger, exceptionally beautiful sister, Lydia is also a singer-songwriter. She is currently in her last year of a Music degree and will soon begin her teacher training course. She loves walking on the beach and a cold glass of New Zealand Sauvignon. Here are Lydia’s new year’s resolutions for 2016!
As it comes to the end of the year, a year that has changed my life, I start to reminisce on the good, bad and damn right ugly times. This year for me has seen me graduate, work out what I am passionate about and best of all, finally move on. (Those reading this that know me…I promise I mean it this time).
I thought that seeing as I usually set my New Years resolution when I’m drunk at 2 am, it might be better to actually sit, think and consider what I really want from 2016.
Okay so this is a big one for me. I’ve always been such a try-hard, in every sense of the word, but I’ve realised there comes a time in your life when you simply have to let go.
Let go of ex’s: there is a reason why it didn’t work out the first time… Or second or third too.
Let go of people: If people are supposed to be in your life they will be.
Let go of control: Sometimes it’s okay not to be in control (even if you feel like you need to hide under a blanket fort eating coco pops out of the box).
Let go of unrealistic expectations: I have always had a set plan about how things will work in life and in love and actually, none of us have a clue what we are doing anyway. Love is different for everyone. I am passionate and creativeand I need to fall head over heels in love – not just make out like I am on Instagram.
Let go of insecurities: I have had friends and boyfriends who have not only built me up but also knocked me down. I am finally learning to love what I see in the mirror and understand the importance of loving myself, the whole of me, despite having my mum’s nose. (Love you mum).
Let go of fear; in other words, be brave: I have spent my whole life worrying about what people think and what people will say and do. It’s funny because my sister and I were talking about this and she repeated the cliche: “you’re never going to keep everyone happy in this world” and do you know what, that literally opened up my eyes. Why am I fighting so hard to be what everyone wants me to be? What about what I want?
And most importantly, to TAKE…
TAKE every moment that makes me smile and live in it.
TAKE myself out of situations that don’t make me happy.
TAKE advantage of the fact I have the best family in the world and don’t need anyone, no one but them!
TAKE the time to say thank you to all the people who have supported me with my dreams as they now are becoming a reality.
TAKE one step at a time, build up my dreams and maybe find some love along the way…
That’s not too much to ask is it?